A couple of weeks ago, one of the high school boys in our youth ministry looked straight at me and said, “You know, Jen, youth pastors’ wives are a lot like superhero sidekicks – you are always there beside the superhero, helping them out and stuff.” At first, I was a little taken-aback. The sidekick? Really? Who wants to be the sidekick? Everyone in their right mind knows that if you have the choice to be Batman or Robin, the answer is always, always Batman. Nobody chooses to be Robin. Nobody.
As a husband and wife team in youth ministry, I have tried very hard to not be seen as just an add-on to Jon’s ministry. I want to be in the battlefield, “fighting” in ministry as a superhero with him. I don’t want to be overlooked. I don’t want to be brushed to the side. And I definitely, definitely, definitely don’t want to be seen as Robin.