I am so excited to share with you today an amazing guest post by my dear friend, Pam Bailey! She is an amazing youth pastor and mom, and her wisdom and knowledge is such a blessing and an inspiration to me.


Today, I had the great pleasure of officiating my first wedding as an ordained minister. It was exhilarating! It is something I have dreamed about for years. In fact, I had just the right sermon picked out for whenever that moment would arrive. Nevertheless, God is always one step ahead of me. When the moment came, that sermon was not used. In fact, in all of my preparations, and studying, and contemplating, and writing…I was nowhere near the scripture I had once dreamed to use in my first marriage ceremony.

For me, that happens often. Hi, I am Pam. Guest blogger for my dear friend, Jen Stem. Isn’t she lovely? I love her! I pray that you have been blessed by her vision and passion created in this blog. (Sorry for the mini rabbit trail commercial…back to programming). First and foremost, I am a wife. I am blessed to say, that I married my soul mate and best friend. Furthermore, I have the amazing privilege of being a stay-at-home mommy to three beautiful boys. I also get the opportunity to serve as Youth Pastor and Kids Church Director at our church. We are a busy family. I try to maintain order. I try really hard. Sometimes I succeed, a lot of times I fail. This is difficult for me. God created me with a beautiful personality trait that some refer to as “Type A.” The lack of order sends me into a downward spiral of all sorts of not great reactions and responses. Ha!

I often say that my life is a zoo. Sure, it’s full of beautiful exhibits. But at the end of the day, it’s still a bunch of caged wild animals. With all the craziness of being a wife, motherhood, and ministry, God has an incredible way of reminding me that He is in control. Just when I think I know what I am doing, He gently reminds me, “I am who I am” (Exodus 3:14).

I love The Message version of Proverbs 19:21, “We humans keep brainstorming options and plans, but God’s purpose prevails.” Think about that in your own life. How many situations could you reflect back to this scripture? For me, it’s a ton! There are so many books, articles, podcasts, blogs, etc. on self-help type scenarios. Many of them contain incredible options and plans for your life. One of my own obsessions (cough, Pinterest, cough, cough) is a social media platform specifically designed for us to fantasize about all the options and plans available for EVERYTHING! But in the end, when it is all said and done, God’s purpose prevails. Despite all the attempts I make to have things neat and orderly, in the depths of my soul, my true desire should always be for God’s purpose. The sad part is, more times than not, we become a “Martha” and keep doing and going without asking God to be present. Without asking God to be exalted. Without asking God to be, “I am who I am.”

Take a moment today, this week, this month, and make a point to ask God to be present. Ask God in all the mundane of life – the cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, ministries, in everything – ask God to allow His purpose to prevail. Be grateful in the moments when He shows you who is in control. Be grateful in the moments when you are not in control. Be grateful in the moments when “I am who I am” has given you a gentle hand on your shoulder.

Pam Bailey
Pam Bailey is a wife, mother, youth pastor, stay-at-home mom, animal lover, amateur photographer, and beach bum. You can follow her camera adventures at www.pamelabailey.info.